Friday, 30 May 2008
Love bein' single!!
Here I am back again with my set of contradictions...Deny this or not, I am sure that at some point in life, you surely would have loved the feeling of being single!! Yeah I still feel the need for that 'someone' special...Thank god! I hv not yet reached the cynicism levels of some older frnds of mine who are 'technically' single and depressed. I still do have a ray of hope here - that I will someday meet that 'special' one! Hmm...anyways, singlehood doesnt always mean your relationship sans a partner! It could simply even be a bent of mind - doing things your way, handling ur own finances, living on your own in a strange city (Read Sushmita Bose's column 'Single in the City' in HT!!). Its your faith in yourself that matters at the end of the day! Anyway, since I hate getting preachy, I will stop right here! My personal experience with relationships has taught me to be independent - mostly in my thoughts! Thats because I have been independent otherwise in all spheres (thanks to my parents!). I have always seen that somewhere, somehow, and all the time, I have been for my friends during their distress times, but when I needed them during my crisis period, I'd always end up being alone (dont blame my frnds at all for that - its all circumstances!). So all that made me keep my feelings to myself...handle all my crisis on my own as I hate being judged! Some may think its being snobbish...but that is also a part of 'singlehood', I guess! So being single is not as boring/negative as its universally perceived. Having faith in yourself is the core idea of any relationship (with oneself/friends/lover/parents) . They say: If your bond with yourself is strong, then u can succeed in any relationship in life!! You would never even have to try!! People perceive relationships as a tool to reduce their loneliness and as a panacea to their singlehood. But it never works that way: fortunately or unfortunately! You could even remain depressed even with that special someone. I have strengthened myself to the hilt that I can stand alone with my head held high! So now all u guys, now u know why I am called 'Pozicool'!! :)
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Hey pozicool, I totally second most of your thoughts. But there are some things I'd like to add. When u get totally independent in ur actions n thoughts, it builds a wall around u. even barbed wires.and it becomes a task for that someone special to overcome them n reach u.And, no someone specials would like their special ones to be totally independent. they'd like to team with u so that u guys can depend on each other.Ah and one more thing, who said being single is a sad thing, its the time of self discovery n unimpeded joy!!!
As I think Person who live alone have more time to devote to their close friendships, because they don't have to spend so much time with anybody. If being alone means friendless for u then I m sorry but U must have few close frnds. I just want to add that spend time with people you love and like - you have no one's opinion to worry about but your own. For me Living alone means you have got the energy and time to devote to being a good friend.
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